In this third installment of our exploration into irrational narratives and their impact on conflict resolution, we delve into the Villain Story, a counterpart to the Victim Story we explored earlier. These narratives intertwine to shape a dual standard of perception, one that amplifies innocence while simultaneously exaggerating guilt or stupidity. Continue reading to learn how to overcome this narrative and foster a more comprehensive understanding of complex situations.

How Irrational Stories Distort Challenging Situations (Part 3: The Villain Story)

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