Context is Key: Knowing When NOT to Ask the Tough Questions First

In a previous blog post, we delved into the intricate world of conversation dynamics by discussing the power of initiating discussions with tough questions first. We explored how this strategy can foster deeper connections and encourage openness among participants.

Following its publication, a pertinent question surfaced: ‘Are there situations where this approach might not be ideal?’ In this post, we address that question. Discover why considering context before diving into heavy inquiries is crucial for meaningful dialogue.

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The Psychology of Disclosure: How Starting with the Tough Questions First Spurs Openness

Unlock the secrets to fostering openness in challenging conversations! Read now to discover why starting with the tough questions first can pave the way for more candid exchanges later in conversation. 

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Addressing Underperformance: When “More Training” is NOT the Answer

In this blog post, we unlock the secrets to tackling underperformance head-on. Discover why traditional solutions like “more training” often fall short and explore alternative strategies to reignite motivation and boost productivity. Dive into practical advice and transformative insights that will empower you to lead your team to new heights of success.

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Recognizing and Defeating Self-Sabotaging Loopholes

In our latest blog post, unlock the secret to overcoming self-sabotage. Delve into the subtle yet powerful loopholes that hinder personal growth and success, from procrastination to moral licensing, and learn a practical strategy to break free from these patterns and reclaim control over your life. Don’t let self-imposed limitations hold you back any longer—discover the keys to unlocking your full potential today.

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Unleashing Your Inner Royalty in Every Room

As I approached a table adorned with complimentary coffee and doughnuts at a recent event, my eyes met those of two young ladies. After exchanging smiles and greetings, they remarked, “You look like someone of authority. Do you happen to know where the doughnuts came from?”

Chuckling at their observation, I replied, “That’s kind of you to say. Unfortunately, I don’t know where the doughnuts came from. However, I think I know who can answer that question for us.”

Intrigued by their initial perception of me, I asked, “Why do you think I look like someone with authority?” One of the women gestured from my head to my toes and replied, “I don’t know. It’s your hair and overall look. You look important.”

Their answer, though simple, hinted at a recurring pattern in my interactions—a deliberate demeanor that often evokes such assumptions. Reflecting on this exchange, I couldn’t help but acknowledge the subtle strategies I employ to shape perceptions wherever I venture.

But what exactly are those strategies? They are the keys to walking into any environment and commanding attention, and today, I’m thrilled to share them with you.

With that, let’s delve into what truly commands attention and presence.

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Mastering the Art of Subtle Influence: Unveiling the Power Dynamics of Communication

Unlock the intricacies of communication dynamics and master the art of subtle influence with our latest blog post. Explore the complexities of navigating power dynamics, understanding psychological nuances, and fostering genuine connections in both personal and professional realms. Plus, don’t miss our upcoming “Boost Your Communication Effectiveness” workshop led by Starla West, where you’ll gain practical strategies to elevate your communication skills. Use coupon code INFLUENCE25 for 25% off registration. Join us on this journey toward effective communication mastery.

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Bridging the Gap: Empowering Leaders and Executive Assistants through Peer Advisory Networks

In the fast-paced realm of professional life, administrative professionals play a vital role in supporting leaders and ensuring the seamless functioning of organizations. Recognizing the importance of fostering collaboration and eliminating isolation, our Executive Assistant Peer Advisory Network presents a transformative opportunity for both leaders and administrative professionals. In this post, we explore how this unique network benefits both leaders and EAs and contributes to a more connected and successful workplace.

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Unlock the Full Potential of “Help Me Think”

Translate the wisdom from the first eleven episodes of “Help Me Think” into immediate action with this collection of free, downloadable worksheets custom-tailored to each episode’s content.

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How Irrational Stories Distort Challenging Situations (Part 5: The Helpless Participant Story)

In the final installment of our blog series on irrational narratives and their impact on conflict resolution, we delve into the “Helpless Participant” narrative and the associated “Powerlessness Paradox.” This narrative often convinces us that we are powerless bystanders in challenging circumstances, leaving us resigned and passive. Continue reading to learn about seven actionable steps you can take to break free from this disempowering mindset, reclaim your agency, and contribute to positive outcomes in your life.

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How Irrational Stories Distort Challenging Situations (Part 4: The Inadequacy Story)

Explore how irrational narratives distort our understanding of challenging situations in the fourth installment of our series, “How Irrational Stories Distort Challenging Situations.” Delve into the Inadequacy Paradox, where chronic self-doubt skews perception, causing individuals to shoulder unnecessary blame and perceive their intellectual abilities as lacking. Discover strategies to break free from this cycle by embracing curiosity over insecurity and asking pivotal questions that challenge the narrative’s grip. Gain insights into reframing perspectives, distinguishing inner voices, and reclaiming a constructive self-perception, empowering effective conflict resolution and personal growth.

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How Irrational Stories Distort Challenging Situations (Part 3: The Villain Story)

In this third installment of our exploration into irrational narratives and their impact on conflict resolution, we delve into the Villain Story, a counterpart to the Victim Story we explored earlier. These narratives intertwine to shape a dual standard of perception, one that amplifies innocence while simultaneously exaggerating guilt or stupidity. Continue reading to learn how to overcome this narrative and foster a more comprehensive understanding of complex situations.

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How Irrational Stories Distort Challenging Situations (Part 2: The Victim Story)

In this post, we explore the world of irrational stories in dealing with challenging situations. Part 1 discussed Fool’s Choice, where leaders limit their options and decision-making by believing they must choose between opposing activities. In Part 2, we delve into the Victim Story, where individuals avoid acknowledging their role in conflicts, hindering constructive solutions. Continue reading to learn how to embrace personal accountability and challenge this destructive internal dialogue to overcome this cognitive trap. Stay tuned for Part 3 to explore another irrational story impacting conflict management.

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How Irrational Stories Distort Challenging Situations (Part 1: Fool’s Choice)

In this blog post, we explore how challenging circumstances can overwhelm us, leading to the creation of irrational stories that distort our perception of the situation. One such irrational story is Fool’s Choice, where we mistakenly believe we must choose between two opposing activities. Continue reading to learn how to confront Fool’s Choice and gain the clarity to navigate challenging situations with grace and wisdom.

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Survey Results: Your 2023 Must-Attend Conferences

The results are in! Here are the conferences our readers said they are attending in 2023.

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