A Quick Story
Our little Abbi Lou wasn't feeling well a couple of weeks ago, so I took her to the vet.
When Dr. Rice entered the room, she asked, "Same thing? Another UTI?"
"No, I don't think so," I replied. "Not this time. I think it is something else."

An Important Backstory To Explain Dr. Rice's UTI Question
When Abbi DISENGAGES FROM INTERACTION, CURLS UP ON A DINING ROOM CHAIR, and DOESN'T MOVE FOR 24 HOURS, I keep a close eye on her BECAUSE I KNOW THOSE BEHAVIORS ARE INDICATIVE OF ONE OF TWO THINGS:
A bowel movement might be coming.
If, after 24 HOURS OF LETHARGY, Abbi begins to CRY (cat people know what I'm talking about), what comes next is a BRIEF MOMENT OF SILENCE followed by a DEAD SPRINT THROUGH THE HOUSE with HUMAN-SIZED TURDS SHOOTING OUT THE BACK LIKE MISSILES.
Abbi only has bowel movements every seven to ten days due to her Megacolon. We've been managing it the last five years with three medications twice a day. So when it's time, IT'S TIME! My husband and I can't decide if the one-minute sprint through the house is a celebration or if she thinks the turds are chasing her. Either way, it's quite a sight.
OUR REQUIRED ACTION WHEN THESE BEHAVIORS FOLLOW A 24-HOUR STINT OF LETHARGY:
A trip to the vet is unnecessary. Abbi celebrates with a special treat, resumes her normal behavior, and all is good.
- OR -
I know. I know. This is a terrible topic for a blog post, but it will help me make a point in just a moment, so hang in there with me.
A urinary tract infection might be setting in.
If, after 24 HOURS OF LETHARGY, she VOMITS, STOPS EATING, and URINATES UNCONTROLLABLY OUTSIDE HER LITTER BOX with a NOTICEABLE DIFFERENCE IN ITS APPEARANCE, SMELL, AND CONSISTENCY, I know she likely has a UTI.
Why? Because I've observed this cluster of behaviors several times before since our little Abbi is also one of those cats who gets a UTI every four to six months.
OUR REQUIRED ACTION WHEN THESE BEHAVIORS FOLLOW A 24-HOUR STINT OF LETHARGY:
I scoop her up and take her to the vet for treatment.
Now, Back To My Original Story
So after I told Dr. Rice I didn't think it was a UTI, I shared a new set of various behaviors that I had observed.
Based on what I shared, Dr. Rice surmised that Abbi's kidney values were out-of-whack. She ordered a blood test to confirm, and now yours truly gets to administer daily subcutaneous fluids. Add that to the list of things poor little Abbi has to endure each day.
Anyhoo...I digress. Let's get back to the point of this blog post.
Why Am I Sharing All Of This With You?
After I provided my observations, Dr. Rice said, "This is why we love you. You pay attention and can tell us everything we need to know." Inquisitively, I asked, "Doesn't everyone?" Dr. Rice replied, "No, they don't."
I learned from Dr. Rice that some pet owners are oblivious to when their pets deviate from their baseline behaviors. This is why they often miss the critical information needed to quickly recognize their pet's illness and make informed decisions about how to best respond.
What Does This Have To Do With Emotional Intelligence?
Knowing Baseline Behaviors and Recognizing Patterns of Deviation are cornerstones for Situational-Awareness.
And Situational-Awareness is a key component of Emotional Intelligence.
To explain, here a few slides from a recent presentation:


Emotional Intelligence isn't just about self-awareness. It's about self-awareness and situational-awareness. When you enhance your skills in both areas, your overall EQ will heighten.

Pulling It All Together
How Can YOU Improve Your Situational-Awareness?
Pay Attention and Be Observant
Assume the role of an unbiased and objective observer of your environment. Make a conscious choice to pay close attention to the following so that you may gather the data you need to identify and better understand the baselines of others.
Turn Your Radar On, Keep It On, and Be Genuinely Curious
Once you've gained a deeper understanding of someone's baseline behaviors, continue to pay close attention to the items noted above. Doing so makes you more likely to notice deviations when they occur.
When you spot a deviation:
Recognize Patterns of Deviation
Always watch for multiple deviations that occur in clusters or succession. This will improve your accuracy in reading people.